Quick Tips for Communicating During Deployment

Here are some ideas for keeping in touch when you and your service member are far apart:

Be sure you have the right address. That way your letters and e-mails will arrive on time.
Answer any questions your service member may have asked in an earlier message. You'll keep the conversation going and keep your family member from wondering or worrying.
Learn about any guidelines for military mail. You'll find rules, restrictions, and other helpful mailing information at hqdainet.army.mil/mpsa/mid.htm.
Be creative. Letters and e-mails are great, but try adding variety with audio recordings, DVDs, or video recordings.
Express yourself clearly. Remember that you won't be there to explain what you mean when your family member reads your message.
Send frequent packages. Ask your family member what is most needed, and be sure to include special treats, funny notes, and anything else that might bring a smile.
Be honest. You don't have to pretend that you're feeling fine when you're not.
Use the Internet for more than e-mail. For instance, you can create a Web page with pictures and news, "talk" with your family member in chat rooms, or use a scanner to send newspaper clippings or a child's report card.
Try not to worry if you don't get a quick response. Your service member may be in an area with limited mail or e-mail service, or may simply be too busy to respond right away.
Think about making a "flat daddy" or "flat mommy" for your child. Go to www.imalreadyhome.com/flatdaddy.htm to learn more about making a large-size, cut-out, mounted photo of a deployed parent.

Your Family Support Center can give you information and support on many issues that affect service members and their families. And Military OneSource, a free 24/7 service from DoD, available to all active-duty, Guard, and Reserve members and their families, provides information and referrals plus face-to-face counseling. Call 1-800-342-9647 or access www.MilitaryOneSource.com.

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